What are those elusive qualities that women seek in men? Listening around, you’re sure to hear opposite opinions from lady to lady. How we wish that the confusion would end there: preferred fashions go in and out of style in the blink of an eye, interests waver, and interpersonal dynamics complicate everything. Sometimes, she simply needs some good old warm-up time to come to appreciate your unique allure.
But what are the timeless fundamentals that women look for in men? Well, meta-analyses in psychological research tell us that it comes down to the following 4 factors:
1. Hygiene: Are You Clean?
Do you have a fresh scent? Do you brush your teeth at least twice a day? Are your clothes washed regularly? Are you clean shaven, or is your beard well-kept? Are your nails clean? Ask yourself these questions, and if you hear yourself answering “No” more frequently than “Yes,” it’s time for you to kick-start some new hygiene habits.
2. Pride: Are You Confident?
Do you challenge yourself? Do you trust in your own opinions and decisions, without needing validation from others? Are you open to failure and able to listen? Are you interested in bettering yourself for the benefit of others? If you feel that you might be lacking in confidence, the only way to build some is to do as Samuel Beckett would, and fail better.
3. Humour: Are You Funny?
Can you make light of life’s absurdities and inconveniences? Can you see the comedy in your friends’ and girlfriend’s character flaws and idiosyncrasies? Can you make fun of yourself? A man with humour is a man who can take life in its strides.
4. Honesty: Are You Trustworthy?
Do you honour your word? Do you stick to your principles in trying times? Do you give friends and romantic interests honest opinions even when it’s awkward or difficult?
Take time to reflect on these fundamentals. You might find that practicing them will do you and the ladies some good.
